I’ve been asked by a couple recently engaged friends lately about how to choose your wedding party. Well, here’s how I navigated these murky waters when I got married! ***HINT: I did not do it well, so these are tips I SHOULD have followed!

Navigating the Murky Waters of Choosing a Wedding Party

The question of how to choose your wedding party, specifically bridesmaids and the Maid of Honor can be tricky. The first thing to do is decide on how big you want the wedding party to be. I’m OCD so first it was really important to me for our sides to be even. Eihab and I were able to compromise (he wanted a lot and I wanted two people lol) and we settled on five for each side.

Here’s a little back info on the ladies I chose!

Maid of Honor – Colleen

I’ve been friends with this lady since pre-school, and I always knew she’d be in my wedding. I don’t have any sisters, so I wanted to choose the person that I’ve been friends with the longest as my MOH. The MOH is generally the bride’s right-hand lady, so I knew I needed to choose someone who was available and capable of being in charge of important events. Colleen is probably the most fantastic little event planner I know; she made my Bridal Shower absolutely magical 🙂

Bridesmaid – Amy

I met Amy in my 10th grade Spanish class. I thought she was crazy and she thought I was weird, but two years later we had a PE class together, and from then on we were inseparable! We were roommates in the dorms in college, and we’ve been soul twins ever since.

Bridesmaid – Mya

I really wanted to include Mya in my wedding because she is my cousin and I wanted to make more of an effort to have a relationship with her. Her and I are very similar; we are both incredibly shy and socially awkward (sorry Mya), so it’s been a little rough forming a bond. But I love her to death and I wanted to work harder to get to know her and have her know me, and I’m really glad she was able to be in my wedding 🙂

Bridesmaid – Sarah

Sarah and I met in college – I rented a room in her apartment while she went home for the summer. After the summer was over, I decided to stay in the room since her old roommate wasn’t coming back. We ended up going to Mexico together that winter break and had an awesome time! After college we both moved to Portland and ended up renting an apartment together downtown until I got married!

Bridesmaid – Lizeth

Lizeth lived in the college apartment with Sarah, so that’s kind of how she and I met. Lizeth and I had a great time together in college, and even though we don’t see each other very often, whenever we are able to get together it’s like no time has passed 🙂

I’m really happy with the ladies I chose for my wedding party. I think the most important thing to keep in mind is this – choose people who are forever friends – people who you know in your heart of hearts will always be there for you and you for them, no matter how much time or distance comes in between you. Also, if you have a couple of friends who you love equally and you know it’s going to hurt them if you don’t choose them as your MOH, then either don’t have a MOH, or have as many MOH’s as you want! Who cares if it’s not traditional, at the end of the day, these individuals are your family, and experiencing this wonderful time with them is so much more important.

Well that’s it for this story, hope you guys enjoyed! Drop me a comment if you have your own Bridal Party story cause I’d love to hear from you 🙂 And if you are starting your wedding planning process, check out this post about how we chose our venue!

xo,

B

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